I'm only 24… what is going on?!?!? Pls help me?
I’m 24 years old and have been with my boyfriend for about two years. We have a five month old baby together and I love him very much but he thinks I am cheating on him. The primary reason for this is because I have absolutely NO sex drive at all.
I know what you’re all going to say, you’re a new young mother, blah blah blah… but I know that’s not the cause and I have other symptoms that I believe are related.
- Constant exhaustion and fatique
- Severe insomnia (seems ironic given the constant exhaustion…)
- Unable to loose the baby weight
- Irritable and short-tempered
- Hot and cold flashes
- Loss of appetite
- Foggy memory
- Difficulty concentrating and paying attention (my mind wanders in mid-conversation with people, to the point that I have NO idea what they just said once they finish)
- Absolutely NO sex drive at all (my poor boyfriend will try and try to make me horny, but nothing ever happens, I usually end up giving in and having sex because I feel bad)
I know that these symptoms are not due to being a new mother, however, because I felt wonderful and my sex drive peaked when my baby was about 1-2 months old, then disappeared.
I googled my symptoms and it said that I have a hormonal imbalance where my estrogen levels are far higher than my progesterone levels… and that this typically happens during perimenopause and menopause… I’m only 24!!!
Oh, by the way, these symptoms were here BEFORE I got pregnant as well, I’ve been living with them for a while but they seem to be getting worse.
Please, does anyone know what is going on? Am I going through premature menopause?? What can I do to feel better and have more energy to play with my baby? How can I get my sex drive back? (my boyfriend has tried pretty much everything that you can think of, romantic dinner, foreplay, etc… nothing works so far)
Now that you mention it I have always had very low blood pressure. I didn’t think it was related because I’ve had it for so long.
Even when i was 9 months pregnant the nurse commented that I had the blood pressure of a 10 year old.
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Sorry you’re having a hard time with this, but you really need to go and speak to your doctor about it. It’s not a good thing to try and self-diagnose via the internet as your symptoms are actually very generalised and can be due to a variety of things. The best person to speak to is your doctor. Take care and I hope you get it sorted
Get your Dr to check your thyroid levels.
Pregnancy sometimes triggers an auto-imune reaction that leads to an underactive thyroid.
It could fit your symptoms and if so is easy to fix (pill a day).
There are a couple of diagnoses I can come up with…
One is that you may have a hypoactive thyroid condition:
It explains unbalanced temperature, mood swings, insomnia, a slow metabolism, fatigue (although I assume this is partially because of your insomnia)
Some other symptoms that you didn’t mention are- brittle hair, low blood pressure.
Another is some type of depression. I was clinically diagnosed with depression from age 14 to 18 and before I saw a doctor, many of my symptoms seemed like I had a physical illness.
Like I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t exercise, I was constantly irritated with ever thing, and no matter how much I rested I felt like if I were to lay down I would pass out in 5 seconds.
So you might want to look into that.
Lastly you might have some sort of vitamin d deficiency
which would explain the foggy memory, and fatigue.
As far as having energy to play with your baby, and regaining sex drive.. I really think you need to find out what is wrong with you first, because in order to fix the effect you have to find the cause
You should look into some of the things I listed above, and see if any other symptoms relate to you.
Good luck <3!