My mom is going through a very rough patch of perimenopause. It’s been really rough for all of us because her emotions just go completely out of whack sometimes. Lately she’s been very down on my dad and I feel so horrible. My dad is a hardworking man that breaks his back everyday to support myself, my little brother, and my mom. My mom is a homemaker who to be completely honest doesn’t do much around the house. Yet, she still gets at my dad for the stupidest things. Just yesterday my mom worried me a little bit with something she said to me. I have this guy who is very interested in me and we were texting most of the day. My mom literally said she was jealous of the attention I was getting from this guy. She described it as "young love" and was just giving me this ticked off vibe. I asked if she was jealous and she said yes because its been a long time since she had that. I’m a young adult talking to a guy and she’s been married for over 20 years and she’s jealous of her daughter talking to someone? My mom and I used to fight all the time too but now it’s been all her and my dad and I’m tired of the constant fighting with my parents and the way my mom treats my dad. She’s accused him of having a girlfriend because of the long hours he works and the time he takes to do side jobs, complains to me about him, she’s accused him of "changing", they always disagree about house work and things like that. To be honest, she’s changed, and I’m tired of her attitude and the way she takes advantage and gets at my father. He has allowed her to sit on her butt for years while he works to provide for her and she really doesn’t even keep up with the house work or anything! I just feel like it’s really disrespectful.

My mom is going through a very rough patch of perimenopause. It’s been really rough for all of us because her emotions just go completely out of whack sometimes. Lately she’s been very down on my dad and I feel so horrible. My dad is a hardworking man that breaks his back everyday to support myself, my little brother, and my mom. My mom is a homemaker who to be completely honest doesn’t do much around the house. Yet, she still gets at my dad for the stupidest things. Just yesterday my mom worried me a little bit with something she said to me. I have this guy who is very interested in me and we were texting most of the day. My mom literally said she was jealous of the attention I was getting from this guy. She described it as "young love" and was just giving me this ticked off vibe. I asked if she was jealous and she said yes because its been a long time since she had that. Who says that? I’m a young adult talking to a guy and she’s been married for over 20 years and she’s jealous of her daughter talking to someone? I’m just tired of the constant fighting with my parents and the way my mom treats my dad. She’s accused him of having a girlfriend because of the long hours he works and the time he takes to do side jobs, complains to me about him, she’s accused him of "changing", they always disagree about house work and things like that. To be honest, she’s changed, and I’m tired of her attitude and the way she takes advantage and gets at my father. He has allowed her to sit on her butt for years while he works to provide for her and she really doesn’t even keep up with the house work or anything!
Vagrant- Don’t worry I’m not rushing into anything with that guy I wrote about above. We just met in college and we’re getting to know to each other. He doesn’t know anything about what’s going on with my parents and I don’t know him well enough to tell him anything personal like that. I want to get to know him well first to make sure he’s worth trusting. Thanks for caring! =)

I’m pretty sure my mom is going through menopause right now because she is really irritable and moody and she’s giving my dad the silent treatment because he got mad at her. Today was her birthday but she didn’t even want to eat the cake we got her. I’m really pis$ed off about this and I want my family back. Anything I can do or do I just have to wait it out?

Has anyone any suggestions? My dad has terrible drenching night sweats, probably due to asbestosis. He has also become very tired recently and I’m wondering if it is because of the sweating. Any ideas would be welcome.
Thanks Matt – no TB, just asbestosis (8 years duration). Thanks for suggestion though.

My dad recently stopped drinking soy milk, after he heard that soy milk promotes female hormones. I’m an athlete, on a healthy diet based around gaining healthy muscle weight. I was wondering how true the statement "Soy promotes female hormones" is and whether it is detrimental to my goal of promoting human growth hormones and putting on muscle weight for football. Ha, I certainly don’t want to grow double d’s…

I’m 22 years old and was just laid off from my job. I have no health insurance and don’t want to be a burden on my parents since they’re having money issues with my dad injuring himself at work.

I would like to go in and have a gynecological exam. Will I be able to have this exam with little to no cost at Planned Parenthood? I’m currently seeking employment but am not having much luck, so that means no health insurance for quite some time.

So my dad wants to know why he has been getting these lately. At night he wakes up in a puddle of sweat on the pillow case,and down the neck,but no where else. Now I have looked for other answers and nothing really pertaining about his specifics. This is it… only sweating around the head,only at night. He’s not sick or infected and I’ve read up on Sleep Hyperhidrosis. If anyone has good explanation let me know

I’ve been experiencing pregnancy symptoms, but people have said it could also be perimenopause (I’m 36). My Mom passed 1`2/25/04, so I can’t ask her when she first started menopause and I know my Dad won’t know or remember. I also didn’t test for pregnancy yet.

My mom has migranes and my dad had leukemia.
I suffer from extreme headaches, so bad that i vomit, and i can’t hear or concentrate on anything. My mom doesn’t get this. I get these everyday, i know its not the flu or mono because its happened since january. Also when i sit down and am reading something i get very dizzy and lightheaded. Everytime i stand up i black out and have to stand and hold on to something untill it stops. I have bruises that i don’t know where they are from, tiny redish purpleish spots on my shoulder, nightsweats and i feel very tired all the time. i used to constantly eat and no i have no desire to have nearly as much. I was very active and could be able to run up a set of stairs, now when i do i get even more tired and get a shortness of breath. My chest also hurts everyttime i breath.
every once in awhile my knees hurt tremedously.
what could this be?
sorry maybe i wanted people who acctually have leukemia or migranes to answer this question not then general public, and its pretty sad that you can’t even spell STUPID

And you can tell me what’s wrong with me, and why i have severe mood swings all of a sudden, and acting violent towards people i care about.

Okay, first off, i was born in 1992. My mom was 19, and my dad was in his mid 20s. My dad was a drug addict and alcoholic, but my mom wasn’t. I had to grow up hearing them argue and verbally/physically fight all the time, even though they didn’t live together and didn’t go out. One time when i was about 4, my parents were arguing on christmas eve, and i yelled for them to be quiet so santa could come. My dad came into my room and told me to shut the hell up, because santa wasn’t real. Then another time, i told my dad i hated him, and he replied back "i hate you too" and slammed my door. I’ve had to grow up hearing my parents have sex, which is so disturbing to hear your parents have sex. My dad raped my mom in front of me, he hit her in front of me, and yelled at both of us. My mom was young in the 90s, so on the weekends, she dropped me off at granny’s house so she could go party with her friends. I’m way closer to my granny because she basically raised me when i was young cause mom was never home. Both of my parents have been addicted to crack cocaine and alcohol (my mom has been clean for 6 years, but my dad still uses). My granny was physically abused by her husband (my grandpa) in the 70s, and when i was little in the 90s, they used to argue alot in front of me. I started liking girls when i was 5, and i had my first kiss with a girl when i was 5. I used to get beat up everyday in preschool by a girl who i would later discover was my cousin. I then transfered to an elementary school where the majority was whites, and in kindergarten, these twins wouldn’t invite me to their B-day party because i was "colored". I basically had no real friends until 1st grade when these 2 black twins came to my school. I started having a crush on one of them, but they left in 2nd grade. I didn’t have a real friend until 5th grade, when this family moved to my city. I met this girl, who would eventually become my best friend. We’re still best friends now as seniors. When i went to middle school, i fell in love with this hispanic girl, and everyone found out. I was teased and beat up for the rest of the year, and i was suicidal twice that year. Then 7th grade was boring, and in 8th grade i did track and basketball. I came to high school, and freshman year was fun. 10th grade was okay, and 11th grade was good too. Now i’m going to be a senior next fall, but i am starting to have severe mood swings, and i’m thinking/acting violently. As you probably figured, i’m a lesbian, and when you become a teen, hormones start going crazy. My best friend is starting to notice guys, and i’m getting very jealous. I yell at her, and grab her arm telling her she better not talk to no guys while i’m her friend. I have dreams about hitting her and telling her she’s mine, and she’ll never talk to anyone unless i say so. We used to be very close, but now everytime we hang out, it’s akward, and i end up yelling at her and calling her out of her name. Also, my family is trying to pressure me to get a boyfriend, but i don’t want one. And my mom really wants me to have kids, but i don’t want kids. I’m joining the military, which my family is also opposed too. I have dreams about hurting people, but i want them to stop.

So there’s my life in a nutshell. What do you think my problem is? Why am i having mood swings and acting violent towards people? Do you think i need therapy?

And you can tell me what’s wrong with me, and why i have severe mood swings all of a sudden, and acting violent towards people i care about.

Okay, first off, i was born in 1992. My mom was 19, and my dad was in his mid 20s. My dad was a drug addict and alcoholic, but my mom wasn’t. I had to grow up hearing them argue and verbally/physically fight all the time, even though they didn’t live together and didn’t go out. One time when i was about 4, my parents were arguing on christmas eve, and i yelled for them to be quiet so santa could come. My dad came into my room and told me to shut the hell up, because santa wasn’t real. Then another time, i told my dad i hated him, and he replied back "i hate you too" and slammed my door. I’ve had to grow up hearing my parents have sex, which is so disturbing to hear your parents have sex. My dad raped my mom in front of me, he hit her in front of me, and yelled at both of us. My mom was young in the 90s, so on the weekends, she dropped me off at granny’s house so she could go party with her friends. I’m way closer to my granny because she basically raised me when i was young cause mom was never home. Both of my parents have been addicted to crack cocaine and alcohol (my mom has been clean for 6 years, but my dad still uses). My granny was physically abused by her husband (my grandpa) in the 70s, and when i was little in the 90s, they used to argue alot in front of me. I started liking girls when i was 5, and i had my first kiss with a girl when i was 5. I used to get beat up everyday in preschool by a girl who i would later discover was my cousin. I then transfered to an elementary school where the majority was whites, and in kindergarten, these twins wouldn’t invite me to their B-day party because i was "colored". I basically had no real friends until 1st grade when these 2 black twins came to my school. I started having a crush on one of them, but they left in 2nd grade. I didn’t have a real friend until 5th grade, when this family moved to my city. I met this girl, who would eventually become my best friend. We’re still best friends now as seniors. When i went to middle school, i fell in love with this hispanic girl, and everyone found out. I was teased and beat up for the rest of the year, and i was suicidal twice that year. Then 7th grade was boring, and in 8th grade i did track and basketball. I came to high school, and freshman year was fun. 10th grade was okay, and 11th grade was good too. Now i’m going to be a senior next fall, but i am starting to have severe mood swings, and i’m thinking/acting violently. As you probably figured, i’m a lesbian, and when you become a teen, hormones start going crazy. My best friend is starting to notice guys, and i’m getting very jealous. I yell at her, and grab her arm telling her she better not talk to no guys while i’m her friend. I have dreams about hitting her and telling her she’s mine, and she’ll never talk to anyone unless i say so. We used to be very close, but now everytime we hang out, it’s akward, and i end up yelling at her and calling her out of her name. Also, my family is trying to pressure me to get a boyfriend, but i don’t want one. And my mom really wants me to have kids, but i don’t want kids. I’m joining the military, which my family is also opposed too. I have dreams about hurting people, but i want them to stop.

So there’s my life in a nutshell. What do you think my problem is? Why am i having mood swings and acting violent towards people? Do you think i need therapy?