I haven’t had a period in several months and I am experiencing hot flashes and mood swings. I’m assuming I am in perimenopause. What will my doctor appointment be like? Will I need a pelvic exam?




How will the frequent periods last?

Okay I’m almost 40 and I’m having my periods every 21 days now. I realize this probably because of perimenopause or menopause. I’m not worried about it. What I want to know is how many months or years is this going to last? My periods were 35 days apart and I use to skip a month about 4 times a year in the past. It’s funny now that they serve no real purpose they are like clockwork and so frequent.




When I went to my gyn. last week, he said that I was probably in perimenopause because my last period was 6 days late and my breasts were sore after my period instead of before it. Now I’ve started 9 days early. Aren’t cycles supposed to come farther and farther apart or are they generally just wacky like this? Everything was okay at my gyn. visit. I’m 43.







I am going to see a reproductive endocrinologist soon, due the fact that I may be going through perimenopause at the age of 27.

I am struggling with dizziness, which is a side effect. However, lately, it has gotten worse. I have fell twice this week due to dizziness. I will stand up and literally fall over.

No my skin, especially my face, is getting more pale. My eyes are sunken in. I know part of the eye issue is due to my lack of sleep, which is also a symptom of perimenopause.

I am bruising a lot as well. My legs have tons of bruises on them, and I haven’t bumped into anything, etc.

Any idea what this could be? Or do you think it’s just linked to the perimenopause?
I take supplements now. I take Magnesium, Calcium, Potassium pills, and I take lots of Vitamin B. I can’t have caffeine, so I rely on Vitamin B to help with energy levels.

I eat greens, chicken, fish, soups. I’m on a healthy eating plan. I’ve lost 145 pounds.

Birth control pills and weight?




I am 34 and take birth control pills for early perimenopause.I am having a horrible time losing weight,and it seems as if I gain weight just by looking at food.I have always been able to lose weight easily,I know the older we get the harder it gets but this is crazy-has anyone here had this problem? Should I stop the pills?




I am 50 and still have periods. I must be in perimenopause because I am so fatigued all the time.
Even after a good night sleep I am tired in the morning and usually require a 2 hour nap during the day. Don’t have energy to do much. Have been to the Dr. and all my blood tests are normal.

Does caffeine affect people differently?




In the last few years I have noticed that caffeine seems to last a very long time for me. I usually abstain from caffeine (except chocolate occasionally), but in the last few weeks I have developed a taste for hot chocolate (sugar-free) and usually have two- to- three 8 oz. cups from 7:30 am to around 11:00 am. After that, I pour a 16 oz. glass of Diet Cola that I sip on until 6:30 pm, but after that I do not consume any caffeine before bed time. The problem is that I cannot sleep at night anymore and, in fact, feel very "wired" and "hyped up" until around 3:00 am when I finally become sleepy enough to actually nod off, but if I only nap 30- to -45 minutes then I am wide awake when I wake up.

I don’t know if it matters or not, but I am including a little bio information in case it is needed: I am 43 years old, married, 2 sons, 2 dogs and live in Texas. I have been going through perimenopause since I was 27 (verified) and I have High Blood Pressure (low-dose medication) and asthma (only a rescue inhaler used as needed – approximately 3 times per week in the winter & rarely in the summer). My LDL and Triglycerides are high. I have had chronic back pain for 17 years and, as a result, I take 100 mg. of Morphine Sulfate twice per day, and 800 mg. of Ibuprofen twice per day.

I notice that if I completely abstain from all caffeine, by the second night I go to sleep very easily and wake up refreshed.

Is it possible to have a high sensitivity to caffeine? Enough that it would disturb your sleep for up to 48 hours? I am also highly sensitive to antihistamines and pain killers and wonder if it is a correlation?

Any answers, thoughts, or hunches are most welcome. Thanks!!

I need help?




Am a 42 year old woman in perimenopause.I have been on treadmill faithfully 8 weeks for 45-55 min 6 days a week. Warm up 5 min (2 min @ 2.8mph and 3 min @ 3.2 mph) then do 35 min (16 min@ 4.6 mph jog and rest at 3.6 mph, jog time is not all at once..is 3.5 min X 4 +2 min with walking breaks in between). Do a five min cool down same as warm up;total distance usually 2.93 miles. Can’t seem to get my heart rate up beyond 75bpm even during the jog times; yesterday I increased my mph during jog to 5.7 and still didn’t get it to target heart rate (115-140) I already limit starchy carbs. I have been measuring target areas, (arm flab, waist, upper hips, lower hips, chest and top of thigh) and in 8 weeks very little improvement in anything; don’t have scale, but weight not dropping, either. Nothing moves..Between July 2003-Feb 2006 lost 65 lbs. on Atkins with virtually no exercise, gained 20 back with new man who likes meat and potatoes..now married..Getting hopeless..Please help

Why am I so sensitive to heat?




The second I go outside I get a headache that lasts all day, if I fall asleep and the room is hotter than 65 F I wake up with a headache. It doesn’t matter how much water I drink or how many pills I take, the headache won’t go away. When I walk to the bus stop two blocks away from my house I’ll start sweating and my head will hurt, even when it’s around 70 degrees. If I’m taking a shower and the water is hotter than lukewarm my head will hurt for about an hour. If I’m in a room and the fan isn’t on my head will hurt. When I’m straightening my hair my head will hurt.

Where I live it is usually around 80-90 degrees.

Again, I am sensitive to heat, not the sun. And I am not going through menopause/perimenopause. I’m 15.

Need guidance from wives in their 40s?




Anyone feel like they want out of their marriage. We have had a number of problems, never ever cheating involved. Have two kids, one is still 11. We have gone to counseling, are still going, etc. Just recently feel as though I am dying to get out. Move on. I still love him but a lot less. He is driving me crazy with all of the requests, "Can you get me this, get me that?" It did not matter before that he did not have his college degree and now it is bothering me. When he gets angry, he gets too angry. I just want peace and to raise my son in a different atmosphere. SO…is this just the natural hormonal imbalance of being in your 40s and being in perimenopause. Sometimes I feel like I cannot breathe and cannot stand him. He does not know I feel this way and I fall asleep dreaming about my "escape" from this house. I am part time and am limited by my income right now so I cannot just walk away.

Any woman in perimenopause had this problem?




I’m in an active perimenopause at the moment. I haven’t had a period since February of this year. I’ve had high stress since the first of March. I’ve dealt with the loss of my husband’s father, my husband’s uncle, breaking foot, having surgery on arm. After all the stress left then I wake up on Wednesday to have a little surprise of a light period again. My sister is also in perimenopause and came in after 5 months. I know that women come sometimes cycle together but this is ridiculous. It isn’t bad just annoying. I was enjoying the freedom and now this. My mother entered menopause at age 48 and my aunt at age 56. I think I’m going to go for a few more years. I don’t want to go on birth control because of the risk factors. I am taking supplements that my doctor recommended last year though which balanced my hormone levels. I might have to have the levels rechecked again. Has anyone else had this problem? I know that my doctor told me that after 12 months you are considered to be in menopause. Thanks.

Are chills withdrawl symptoms from stopping sudafed?




i have been taking sudafed for a year now daily..and i just stopped because it interacted with the estroven i started. i dont know if the chills are from stopping the sudafed or are from the perimenopause i am experiancing.




My mom is going through a very rough patch of perimenopause. It’s been really rough for all of us because her emotions just go completely out of whack sometimes. Lately she’s been very down on my dad and I feel so horrible. My dad is a hardworking man that breaks his back everyday to support myself, my little brother, and my mom. My mom is a homemaker who to be completely honest doesn’t do much around the house. Yet, she still gets at my dad for the stupidest things. Just yesterday my mom worried me a little bit with something she said to me. I have this guy who is very interested in me and we were texting most of the day. My mom literally said she was jealous of the attention I was getting from this guy. She described it as "young love" and was just giving me this ticked off vibe. I asked if she was jealous and she said yes because its been a long time since she had that. I’m a young adult talking to a guy and she’s been married for over 20 years and she’s jealous of her daughter talking to someone? My mom and I used to fight all the time too but now it’s been all her and my dad and I’m tired of the constant fighting with my parents and the way my mom treats my dad. She’s accused him of having a girlfriend because of the long hours he works and the time he takes to do side jobs, complains to me about him, she’s accused him of "changing", they always disagree about house work and things like that. To be honest, she’s changed, and I’m tired of her attitude and the way she takes advantage and gets at my father. He has allowed her to sit on her butt for years while he works to provide for her and she really doesn’t even keep up with the house work or anything! I just feel like it’s really disrespectful.

I'm starting to get concerned about my parents marriage?




My mom is going through a very rough patch of perimenopause. It’s been really rough for all of us because her emotions just go completely out of whack sometimes. Lately she’s been very down on my dad and I feel so horrible. My dad is a hardworking man that breaks his back everyday to support myself, my little brother, and my mom. My mom is a homemaker who to be completely honest doesn’t do much around the house. Yet, she still gets at my dad for the stupidest things. Just yesterday my mom worried me a little bit with something she said to me. I have this guy who is very interested in me and we were texting most of the day. My mom literally said she was jealous of the attention I was getting from this guy. She described it as "young love" and was just giving me this ticked off vibe. I asked if she was jealous and she said yes because its been a long time since she had that. Who says that? I’m a young adult talking to a guy and she’s been married for over 20 years and she’s jealous of her daughter talking to someone? I’m just tired of the constant fighting with my parents and the way my mom treats my dad. She’s accused him of having a girlfriend because of the long hours he works and the time he takes to do side jobs, complains to me about him, she’s accused him of "changing", they always disagree about house work and things like that. To be honest, she’s changed, and I’m tired of her attitude and the way she takes advantage and gets at my father. He has allowed her to sit on her butt for years while he works to provide for her and she really doesn’t even keep up with the house work or anything!
Vagrant- Don’t worry I’m not rushing into anything with that guy I wrote about above. We just met in college and we’re getting to know to each other. He doesn’t know anything about what’s going on with my parents and I don’t know him well enough to tell him anything personal like that. I want to get to know him well first to make sure he’s worth trusting. Thanks for caring! =)




Since about 33 and 1/2 I started having slight hot flashes. But my periods changed for me around 29. They became shorter and lighter sometimes and then heavier but still didn’t last more then 2 or 3 days. For about 10 years now the first day starts out as spotting and then the 3rd or 4th day is when it becomes heavier but doesn’t last more then two days. A lot of the blood seems to be in the toilet when I go to the bathroom. The hot flashes at 33 didn’t last more then 6 months and weren’t very frequent. But I just turned 39 and now have noticed hot flashes at least once a day especially at night. They used to be in my chest a hot feeling now it begins in my chest and ends up in my head. Sometimes I wake up with semi migraines and feel really tired and sluggish all day at work. My mom stopped getting periods at 41 or 42. She’s now 70 and whenever I ask her about it she tells me to ask the dr or others because she doesn’t remember it. It’s like she’s ashamed of it.
Before the age of 29 my periods were 5 to 7 days. Would start out heavy for about 3 days and then get lighter for the rest of the time. I’ve heard you can go through perimenopause for 5-10 years before your period actually ends. Sometimes my periods now have even been every 26 days or 28 days where as before were always every 28 to 30. Does this mean I’m really getting close to the end? Also what do I do now, with not feeling well. Since I technically still get my periods what can the dr give me to help me with these awful symptoms? Another thing I’m so worried about is I’ve read when you go through it young it can age your skin and cause your hair to thin because the collagen isn’t being produced because of loss of estrogen. My mom still looks extremly good for her age but every individual is different is this just an old wifes tale or does it age you when you go through it young?