My wife is 45 and has had some changes lately.
First the bad: Moody….dished piled to ceiling…clothes piled to ceiling…no breakfast, lunch or dinner usually… won’t get up in the morning,,,tells me she is depressed…and main reason is because I bug her and the kids to help around the house. THat I am the cause of her depression and I need to go seek help…not her.
Then the good: She has become a tiger in bed. Wants to go out and dance at the bars every weekend. But would rather not be by mine any other time.
I told her over 6 months ago I felt like she was a lot more moody and thought she may be going through premenopause….but idea…she said I was crazy…she said "no hot flashes so can;t be".
I asked her to at least go see a doctor…but she refuses.
Been going on for over 6 months now…and nothing is getting better.

Hanging by a thread.

Okay, I know this is personal to ask, but every woman goes through it at some point in life. I’m wanting to know some personal experiences of what you did to cope.
Did you go to the doctor?
Did you buy over the counter medicine?..if so what medicines to help what symptoms?
How long does it last? (I know it’s different for everyone)
Does it get easier?
Is there a stage on menopause that is the worst? (premenopause, menopause, and postmenopause)
Just add anything that helps please!

i was going through premenopause before i was informed that i had cancer. my question is after a year of being on chemo and not having a period am i done with the change of life? i was off chemo for 3 months during that time.

My wife is 45 and has had some changes lately.
First the bad: Moody….dished piled to ceiling…clothes piled to ceiling…no breakfast, lunch or dinner usually… won’t get up in the morning,,,tells me she is depressed…and main reason is because I bug her and the kids to help around the house. THat I am the cause of her depression and I need to go seek help…not her.
Then the good: She has become a tiger in bed. Wants to go out and dance at the bars every weekend. But would rather not be by mine any other time.
I told her over 6 months ago I felt like she was a lot more moody and thought she may be going through premenopause….but idea…she said I was crazy…she said "no hot flashes so can;t be".
I asked her to at least go see a doctor…but she refuses.
Been going on for over 6 months now…and nothing is getting better.

Hanging by a thread.
I have thought of making the appointment myself and bring her to the doctor but she is a Taurus (bull headed) and I think it may turn into a drag out fight…trying to get ideas on what to do to make her realize she needs to do it.
Had our 23rd anniversary a couple weeks ago…bought her roses..brought her to a romantic hotel with jacuzzi, fire place, big bed post king bed…had a WONDERFUL time…but she said next day…."last night was wonderful…felt like 2nd honeymoon…but does not change the issues we have."…has not changed anything since then.

I am TTC so I thought I was pregnant, up until I got my period on the 5/9, or so I think it’s my period. I have always had a 7 day heavy period and then tapers off light. Last month when I thought I was pregnant and I wasnt I at least had my period for 1 day of heavy flow and then it tapered off. This month, I have extremely swollen and tender breasts, which by the way goes away as soon as i get my period but I still have the tenderness. My period is ridiculous, this is supposedly suppose to be my third day and i dont get anything until I wipe it and I have a liner on, and even then its so damn light. I have very light cramping and even then its not even noticeable. Im just scared if it could be something serious other than being pregnant like premenopause ( I am only 30). Advice please!

These trying times are distroying the initimacy in our marriage. Correction, has already destroyed!

Sex and affection is non-existant in our marraige for the past six months. It has been declining for the past several years. Money, kids , work, house are constantly on her mind and she cannot seperate them and allow herself to relax long enough to have even a hint of intimacy between us. I don’t even know the right way to try to make love to her. She pushes my hands away at the first gental attempts at foreplay.

Add to that the hormones (so i’m told) of premenopause which has driven down her self body image, and she doen’t even feel comfortable being naked in front of me.

I on the other hand can’t sleep at night, she turns me on so much that I lay awake all night in the hopes that she’ll roll the right way so maybe I can get a few moments of carressing some parts of her that make fall temporarly exsposed.

Help before I begin looking elseware for the intimacy we all need.
Let me add, that i already helop around the house, cook, race home from work to handle dinner and the kids (youngest is 13) so she can go to aerobics class. I’m painting the kitchen and redoing the lighting etc.

I gently reminded her that it’s been a while… my birthday was last week too, she came right out and said that "the money stuff is on my mind and i just can’t get into it."

Hi I am 36 years old and fo rthe past few months I have been getting my period 2 times a month. and really heavy. I was in bed and woke up feeling dizzy and sick. I go to the bathroom and I’m just pouring and face was all red, and after throwing cool water on my face i suddenly got so cold. and feel so tired and dizzy/fainty. is thyis normal? or could I be going through premenopause? what can I do so Ican go back to bed and sleep?
usually my first day is just spotting and then the second day i’m heavier. but this time I started heavy right off the bat. I’m so tired and feel like i’m always ina hall talking.
I can not get pregnant, I had a tubal ligation 9 years ago. so birth control I didnt know yo could take just because.

what is the best multivitams for premenopause and or menopause?

my breast been sore for about a month and a half, i know i am not pregnant all my test been negative and i don’t have a regular period, I dont have a clue why there sore I heard of premenopause and i was thinking i have that but i dont know, does anyone have any other ideas on what it is

i am a woman goin on 42 and recently i do not have the desire for sex, i think im starting my premenopause. i was just wondering if there is anything i can take to make me in the mood

I am 39 and the mother of 4 children so I know when I am pregnant. But this time I started having my pregnancy symptoms about 2 days after my monthly period had ended. You know, breast tenderness, tired, nauseated, and a constant ache in my lower abdomen. The symptoms only got worse as the days and weeks have gone on. I had a blood test for pregnancy and it came back negative, plus a test for premenopause and it came back negative too. I don’t have any STD’s as my husband I were tested not too long ago. It has been 3 weeks since the symptoms have begun, but the breast tenderness is gone, the other symptoms are still there. Exhausted, nauseated and constant lower ache. I am not near my next period and am not pmsing. I am confused and a bit concerned, but the doctor isn’t and says it’s probably just my advancing age. I don’t think so, since I have never felt like this except the 4 times I have been pregnant. Does anyone have any ideas or had a similar experience? HELP!

I think that I have made a big mistake to take Clomid???? I used to have a very regular cycle of 30-32 days. All of a sudden my doctor gave me clomid to time my ovulation.

1) Clomid month. Period came CD39. Understandable because took clomid.
2) Following month with no clomid. Period came CD32. Extremely heavy for 5 days and spotted to day 12.
3) Alot of white discharges. Yellow creamy. Watery and sticky sometimes. Period came after 45 days. Started brown and light. Like having a first period. Worst, had very bad symptom this month. Extreme depression. Couldn’t sleep or waking up in the middle of the night. Hot flashes. Like I am getting premenopause or what???

I called the doctor and he said it’s nothing to do with the Clomid. Not very supportive. I did have an ultrasound and no cyst or anything.

Okay the clomid screwed up my system. Did the clomid just started it’s work on the 3rd month? How long do I have to wait to have a regular cycle again? How to bring back estrogen?

my lower back has been hurting so i went to see a chiropractor & he said a vertebrate in my lower right part of my back at hip has shifted or something causing the pain.
he suggests 12 sessions of trying to get the vertebrate back in place.
i lift some at work & always on my feet.
also about 25 pounds overweight.
have any of u been to a chiropractor and had x-rays and does this sound right?
just want to know your exp.s and results or failers.
oh he also said the x-ray shows some osteo arthritis starting.
iam 43 and in peri-premenopause..i hear that can also cause back pains.

my lower back has been hurting so i went to see a chiropractor & he said a vertebrate in my lower right part of my back at hip has shifted or something causing the pain.
he suggests 12 sessions of trying to get the vertebrate back in place.
i lift some at work & always on my feet.
also about 25 pounds overweight.
have any of u been to a chiropractor and had x-rays and does this sound right?
just want to know your exp.s and results or failers.
oh he also said the x-ray shows some osteo arthritis starting.
iam 43 and in peri-premenopause..i hear that can also cause back pains.

Ok so my fiance and I have been trying for a baby but haven’t been able to to get pregnant. I went to the dr because I missed my period for 3 months and then started for 11 days and then stopped for 2 days and then started again for another 2 days. I went to the dr and he gave me a vaginal ultrasound and that’s when he told me that I don’t ovulate and that is why Im not able to have a baby, he then said I would have to get on medication to help me with that. I have taken home ovulation test and there are some that come out positive. So I am real confused right now about the whole ovulation thing. Also he ran some test on me because I have colostrum coming out of my breast and when i got the results back on the paper it says a person who is not pregnant is supposed to have a 2.0, a person who is pregnant is supposed to have 10.0 and premenopause is 2.5. Mine came out on the list at a 8.8. Is there anyone out there that has had the same thing happen to them or know whats going on??

Please no rude or sarcastic comments
Last time i took a pregnancy test was in July and it came out negative (thats around the time i went to the dr when he told me i wasnt ovulating) so i stopped taking pregnancy tests